If you’ve been in the BDSM community for a while, you’ll know that DDLG (Daddy Dom Little Girl) relationships exist. If not, welcome.
DDLG, or Daddy Dom Little Girl relationships, are based on the idea that the Dominant takes on an almost paternal role, acting as a rolemodel, guide and caregiver for his little girl. In a sense, it is a “softer” version of a typical Dominant/submissive relationship, with more fun and fewer strict rules and protocols.
It is important to note that I am not exclusively targeting DDLG today, there are various other dynamics, including MDLB (Mommy Dom Little Boy), DDLB (Daddy Dom Little Boy), LDLG (Mommy Dom Little Girl) and CGL (Caregiver/Little). Put simply, my issue today is not that these relationships exist, so much as the fact that minors are participating in them .
To understand my issue, dial back ever so slightly and realise what these relationships are in – they are subsets of BDSM, an adult-only activity. In most jurisdictions, the legal age to participate in any BDSM activity is 18.
So, when I see young girls all over the internet. wanting a boyfriend that they can call Daddy, who will give them rules and protect them and punish them, I immediately feel uneasy. After all, this is the internet, how difficult would it be for a paedophile to pose as a boy of fifteen? Too easy! It’s been going on for decades!
I’m not against newcomers joining our community and, if they still want in when they reach eighteen, then I will welcome them in with open arms. My issue is also not with DDLG, only young people (minors) participating in it. I can understand the appeal, I can understand why these boys and girls want in, I just don’t think they understand what it all means. In DDLG, it’s as much about blowjobs and butt plugs as it is about pacis and ice cream.It’s not just cute things, it’s adult things.
I’ve seen posts by these minors who have said that you should have sex with your Dominant ONLY if you agree to it. I’ve seen posts explicitly calling themselves Littles, but not to be followed by people who are into DDLG, or “creeps”. I’ve even seen individuals advocating underage minors, to which I take a steadfast approach.
Folks, DDLG is a subset of BDSM, an activity for over 18’s. The only people who should be consenting to sex and calling their partners Daddy should be the people who are legally old enough to do it. The only people who should know about DDLG are the people old enough to be in it. Kawaii fashion needs to be kawaii fashion, the Daddy kink is something completely different.
I know it’s hard and I know it sounds like I hate the minors, but let’s be real. There are some big, bad people on the dark web, and the best way we can protect the next generation of kinksters is to make sure they wait until they are old enough to see through it. I don’t know about you, but I wouldn’t sleep at night, knowing a child was abducted because I let them in on something that I knew they weren’t ready for yet.
Stay safe and have fun, kids!
Hugs & kinky cuddles