My "juicie" Sex comes with many surprises, new and exciting adventures, painful injuries and sometimes unwelcome bodily functions.The noise you never expect to hear though, is a loud POP! I mean.. sure.. it was Saturday morning, and Sir and I hadn't played the night before, hormones were high and we had some catching up to … Continue reading POP!
Something which I seldom talk about is the fact that I am a 6-time sexual assault survivor. I've never been raped, but I have been sexually assaulted six times, and something I hear time and time again is that "hey, at least you weren't raped." As a BDSM blogger, it would be wrong of me … Continue reading Sorry, But Sexual Assault IS As Bad As Rape
It's a cool, dark evening here in Bristol. It's dark outside and Sir is watching TV. The smell of curry wafts around the room and various items litter every surface. Tonight is playtime, or at least, it should have been. Today has been a long, arduous, painful day. It started off with every intention to … Continue reading When You Should Play, And When You Shouldn’t
Sir and I installed the couples card-matching app, Kindu, to try and find some more exciting things to do on date night. Normally, we have spaghetti bolognese by candlelight, but sometimes that can seem a bit samey. However, some of the ideas on the cards are absurd at best. Owing to what we do, I … Continue reading Just For Fun: Kindu Giggles With My Sir
This artwork was lovingly handmade by yours truly. Although not a huge fan of the trilogy (other than for the fact that it got people talking about BDSM), this quote for me is particularly prominent. Why? Because an abused man, a man with a sad and dark history, allowed me, an emotionally abused woman, to … Continue reading Being In A BDSM Relationship Finally Allowed Me To Feel Safe And Loved, Here’s How
"I don't understand it, why would you want to be strict all the time? All the rules and protocols? Do this, don't do that.." Ladies and gentlemen, this was my Sir, late Monday afternoon. One of the most common misconceptions about being a Dominant is that you need to be strict, you need to be … Continue reading Fun Doms: A Mythical Beast Or A Misconception?
As a BDSM educator, something I get asked a lot is whether one needs to like giving or receiving pain in order to be into our lifestyle? Isn't that sort of the kinky VIP pass into doing what we do? Damnit, they're onto us. Just kidding. My friends, it is absolutely, crucially important that you … Continue reading Do You Need Pain To Participate In BDSM?