Psst..can I let you in on a little secret?
Today is my 31st birthday. This morning, at 6am, I lay awake, thinking, contemplating, deliberating.
No, not about life, not about getting older, but about my blog, about my writing challenges, or my “social media fluff”, as I called them. The writing challenges that I’d taken on with my blogger friends, but now had second thoughts about.
You see, to me, these challenges are a great way for you to get to know me, get to know my dynamic and how I think, but this blog was never created with me in mind, and it was never about my husband, either. This blog wasn’t set up to write about us, it was set up to allow us to help you.
Something I get asked a lot is how to get started in BDSM. People, particularly couples, are really nervous about taking the first steps, even with the help of professional guidance. People are nervous and cautious about the reaction to telling their loved ones about their particular interests. I’ve been there, and I know that when it goes wrong, it really, really hurts.
A little back story.
A long time ago, long before I dated my now husband. I told him that I was unto BDSM.
“Eww.. why?!” came the reply. Not exactly the response I was hoping for, or expecting.
You see, with some gentleness, some guidance, some information and some encouragement, you too can introduce your partner to a loving, sensual world of BDSM, and that’s what I’m here to help you do.
Not only this, but these writing challenges require me to write every single damn day, about stuff that seems and feels inconsequential. For example, today’s question on the “30 Days Of Submission” challenge asks about domestic discipline, and does it happen in my dynamic?
No. There. Let’s move on.
I do not need to write a whole blog post about that. What good is it to you? What good is it knowing why domestic discipline is not in my dynamic and why my husband disagrees with it when I could be writing, guiding and informing you on cheap ways to explore sensation play or how to talk to your partner about BDSM? It’s insignificant in comparison and a waste of my time and energy.
I don’t want to write about what doesn’t happen, and why it doesn’t happen. It doesn’t. It doesn’t happen because we are we and they are them and every damn dynamic is different.
There, every question answered. Simples.
I want to get Ten Shades & Me Back on track. My stats show that, frankly speaking, people don’t give two hoots about the outcomes of those writing challenges. People care for product reviews, funny rambles, insights and top tips, People want my humour, my knowledge and how I can help them, and that’s what I want to give them. This is nothing against my friends who do the writing challenges, it is merely a decision not to take the challenges anymore myself.
So here is to a better, brighter, sleeker, more informative, more energised blog.
Hugs & kinky birthday cuddles,