Three B Nights – A Wonderfully Kinky Compromise!

Good morning lovelies,

Before I go on vacation, I promised to write about our discovery of “Three B” Nights and how they can help you. Are you ready to get stuck in? Let’s Go!

What is a “Three B” Night?

My husband and I coined “Three B” Nights after our recent argument which I wrote about in Cumulonimbus Clouds Pt 1 & Pt 2. Although not necessarily a new idea, just calling it the “Three B’s” can give you and your partner a wonderfully sexy code to use when you fancy a night of kinky fun!

In this post, the three B’s stand for Bondage, Blindfold & Biting.

Why would I want to incorporate them?

If you and your partner are interested in a little kinky sex, then the Three B’s can serve either as a great starting point, or a great compromise between kink and vanilla sex. It doesn’t matter who is doing the tying and biting and who is the one getting bitten, it’s versatile and suitable for all. Also, as you only need something to tie them with (such as a robe belt) and something to blindfold them with, you need very little to get your kink on- anytime, any place, anywhere!

If your partner is unsure about kinky sex, bondage and blindfolds can be a great way to introduce them to a world of surrendering control over their pleasure. Add in a little gentle nibbling and you can really begin to open your partner’s mind. I know that in the past, I recommended the three B’s to a friend of mine who had a kink-shy partner- and with favourable results!

The three B’s, and why they matter

Bondage – Bondage is about helplessness, and helplessness is about trust. In the movies, being captive in some way usually leads to pain, torture and possibly even death, and so being helpless can make many people afraid. With your partner unable to move, now is your chance to swoop in and show them that giving up control can lead to some very rewarding things.

As a bonus, bondage also takes away the ability to touch. You may also want to put on a sexy little striptease for your partner to tease them- now is your chance!

Blindfold– We all know that blindfolds take away the ability to see, but when we take away one sense, the others are heightened. Yes ladies and gentlemen, that includes touch! A caress that normally would stir little or no reaction can suddenly cause your partner to become much more responsive. Sense of smell and taste also increase and anticipation builds.

Biting– Sometimes, touches, caresses and kisses can be oh so nice, but they can feel a little.. limiting. When we bite and nibble, the message we convey is “you are good enough to eat, but I won’t”. Who doesn’t want to be the subject of that kind of desire?! Try it once or twice with plenty of soothing kisses. If your partner responds favourably, make it part of your regular sexual repertoire!

A word on safety

  • Never, ever use a double knot, slip knot or anything else that could cut off circulation– For simple bondage, take something wide and soft – wrap it around your partner’s wrists once and tie with a simple bow made from two loops. This way, you can undo it quickly and easily by pulling on one end. Failing that, invest in some fuzzy handcuffs, but do be aware that they aren’t the strongest and even I managed to amaze my good Sir with my Incredible Hulk impression!
  • Keep scissors on hand, just in case – I don’t care how much you like your robe, your partner’s safety is far more important. Have a pair of sharp scissors to hand to cut any binds off in an emergency.
  • Never bite with dirty or broken teeth– If you break the skin, humans have one of the most infectious bites of all. If you have chipped teeth or large cavities, your risk of breaking the skin increases and the bacteria present in plaque (along with the risk of some STDs from saliva). Brush your teeth before biting to minimise the risk of all kinds of nasties, please. Plus, the mintiness of toothpaste can add an enjoyable thrill, and who doesn’t like receiving cool, minty kisses?!
  • Never bite hard– Similar to above, make sure you know how hard you’re biting. Not only do you risk infections, but your Hannibal Lecter impersonation just isn’t sexy! Bite gently and build up slowly. Leaving a little pink mark (or a hickey, you kinky devils) is one thing, but never,ever break the surface.
  • Discuss limits and safe words beforehand – Make sure you are both agreed on what is and is not okay, where, how much and what you will say if you want to stop. Your partner will learn to trust you more if you give them a safe word beforehand. Even “Stop!” in and of itself is great for starting out.

5 Ideas To Heat Up Your Three B Night

The Three B’s are great, but maybe you want some other, simple ideas to add? Have no fear:-

  • Spanking – If your partner is really receptive to a little light biting, why not add a little light spank or two, too? You don’t need to go all-out disciplinarian on them, a light swat across the bottom will work. What you want to drive home is that the way they are behaving right now is naughty, not that they themselves are or were naughty. Get it right with plenty of caressing and ditty talk, and a light spanking can be very, very erotic.
  • Tickling– The beauty of tickling is that when your partner is tied up and blindfolded, tickling will be the last thing they expect – so that’s exactly the right time to do it! A little tickle on the soles of the feet will catch them off guard and leave them giggling, just don’t overdo it because tickling in itself can be torture!
  • Rough sex– This one should go without say, but if you build your partner up, you want to end the night with a bang (literally), rather than a fizzle. Make sure you deliver on those promises!
  • Ice– When the blood starts flowing and your body feels hot, ice can be an incredible sensation! I’ll be writing more on sensation play in another post, but as a starting point, ice is something to consider.
  • Tease & Denial – Ladies and gentlemen, the night is supposed to be FUN, we don’t want it to be over too soon, do we? A little tease and denial can be a great way to keep your partner in suspense and keep the evening going just a little while longer, just don’t forget to give them what they seek eventually!

Don’t forget the aftercare!

If this is your first time dipping a toe into the world of BDSM, your partner may have some difficulty processing their emotions afterwards.They may feel overwhelmed and confused, so be sure to give them plenty of aftercare.

Even if not, sometimes some kinky play can bring out some ugly emotions, so your partner may need some comforting care afterwards.

You can read more about aftercare on my post here.

Which of the three B’s do you enjoy the most? Let me know in the comments!

Stay safe and have fun!

Hugs & kinky cuddles,

Elena xx

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