Impact play safety advice from someone with more than 10 active years of experience in the BDSM community.
Good afternoon lovelies, I don't normally write on this blog on a Thursday and yet, as I've been following the Grace Millane case so intensively, I felt the need to come on here and write for you all today. I've also written previously about this tragic case, and the importance of knowledge, consent, communication and … Continue reading The Importance Of Consent (More On The Grace Millane Case)
Good morning lovelies, Today, I wanted to talk to you about something very personal to me: The difference between abuse and BDSM. Yesterday, I received a phonecall from my neighbour regarding his ongoing battle for legal custody of his daughter. My neighbour and I get on fairly well, but I aware of him and his … Continue reading This Isn’t Abuse, But That Is (24/7 D/s vs Domestic Abuse)
Hello lovelies, This will be my last, last post in my beginner's section of my workshop. I know I've sort of said as much before, but then it occurred to me a few days ago that I'd mentioned RACK in a post, but haven't actually written anything about the oh so important SSC, RACK and … Continue reading Beginners: SSC, RACK & YKIOK (My Last, LAST Beginners Post!)
Good morning lovelies, Before I go on vacation, I promised to write about our discovery of "Three B" Nights and how they can help you. Are you ready to get stuck in? Let's Go! What is a "Three B" Night? My husband and I coined "Three B" Nights after our recent argument which I wrote … Continue reading Three B Nights – A Wonderfully Kinky Compromise!
This artwork was lovingly handmade by yours truly. Although not a huge fan of the trilogy (other than for the fact that it got people talking about BDSM), this quote for me is particularly prominent. Why? Because an abused man, a man with a sad and dark history, allowed me, an emotionally abused woman, to … Continue reading Being In A BDSM Relationship Finally Allowed Me To Feel Safe And Loved, Here’s How
Some tips for coping when BDSM play goes wrong, including communication and aftercare.